Its not me its you................

Really? because in all actuality, I really do in fact think its you but I'm just saying its me to make the breakup a little easier..............

Did I confuse anyone with that random ass intro? Good, haha.

I was thinking about this after having a brief textvo (textvo= text conversation) with my ex. He randomly texted me out of the blue the other day and asked:

"On a scale of 1 to 10, compared to the sex you get now, how would you have rated me in bed?"

My response:

"a 5.....a 6.5 when you were drunk." <
So anyway, he goes on and he's asking me if I'm in a relationship (I tell him yes even though Im really not) and he's asking me questions and being nosy about everything. I definitely should have ended the textvo early in the probing but I didn't. He has this manipulative way about him and I can never seem to break away once Ive been engaged. So anyway, he asks me if I miss him and I say NO. So then he goes on to say, "well that's fine, but just know that this current relationship wont last and he'll eventually break your heart and you'll want me back.So just remember all the shit you texted me..........."

And that was it. I was baffled. And I had so badly wanted to know why he would say my "current" relationship wouldn't last......was it something he knew about myself that I didn't? Then I started thinking, maybe it was me....... he was my first serious relationship and even still the relationship only lasted a little under two years. The rest have lasted 1 or 2 months. And Ive also noticed that I have a hard time continuing interest in someone. Its weird and its definitely NOT normal. And he's mentioned something about my future relationships not lasting a while ago when we together but I didnt pay him any mind........but now he's got me wondering.

There is always an underlining reason or cause of something and perhaps there is a reason why i have yet to be in a successful relationship that lasts longer than two years...........*shrug* im not worried about it......i have too much going on right now to even be thinking about being in a relationship. Between school and work, i barely have time for friends....however, if im 30 and im still not in a stable relationship or married THEN I know I have a problem! Playing the field is cool for now, but i would hate to be some bitter 30 year old woman whining about not being married. *shivers at the possibility*

Ugh....i hate my ex.

My future relationship resume.......

I speak with a lot of different guys who seem to say the exact same thing about ALL women: that we don't know what we really want. Understandably, we have to admit ladies that sometimes we say we want one thing but once we get it, we find out that its not really what we were looking for. For example, I once said I wanted a guy who was rough around the edges but soon after, I realized his ass was a little too rough and that wasn't what I was looking for nor was it something I had wanted at the time.

We've all said this before, if I could just take certain personalities and characteristics from different guys and put them all into that one perfect guy then that would be great! However, theres no such thing as a perfect guy and if that's what you're looking for- have fun chasing a fallacy.

I have compiled a list of basic things I would prefer my significant other to have and the reasoning behind it below:


1. A car- It is the year 2009 and easy as hell to get a car nowadays. Besides, I have a car and I barley like playing taxi for some of my closest friends so why the hell would i want to enjoy playing taxi for a grown ass man? However, the exceptions to this are 1) you had a car before we met and its in the shop for some reason. or 2) you're working and saving up towards purchasing one.

2. A job- Granted that if you are in college trying to do big things in the near future upon graduation, a job isn't really that necessary. But if you're jobless AND aren't about shyt, then theres a problem. And I refuse to be a grown mans sugar momma.

3. The ability to not have to lie ALL the damn time- Now this is a big one because I understand men will be men and sometimes they don't understand that telling the truth about certain things isn't really a bad thing. But I had this issue with a guy I use to deal with. He lied. Constantly. About every, little, thing! And the crazy thing was that I had grew to the point to KNOW when he was lying.

4. A great humorous personality- I love to laugh and I would ultimately prefer someone who had the ability to make me do so.


See, this list wasn't too in depth or specific. Notice I didn't say 'well, i like my men dark and over 6 ft' or 'he gotta have perfect teeth' because really, Ive had friends fall head over heels for guys who didn't fit their "original description" of their perfect guy.

Also ladies, I don't think its right to require a man to have something YOU don't have. If your azz is pushing' your left and right Nike's to the Bus Stop and towards a cab, you have absolutely NO RIGHT to say that a man has to have a car if he wants to get with you!

Happy being the other woman??? Girl Stop

Check out this chicks long azz drawn out excuse as to WHY she has absolutely NO problem being the "other" woman (over here at Necole Bitchie) and that she is actually happy being a jumpoff (*side eye*) girl stop! You should never feel happy or proud to be the jumpoff of a man who is involved with someone else! Is she kidding me? Like seriously, I wish I knew this girl because I'd do the honor of slapping the shyt out of her myself! First of all, thats how diseases are passed around. Second of all, that bytch need to switch roles and imagine how SHE would feel if her man was cheating on her with someone else. And THIRD of all, being a jumpoff is never cool. Period. Been there, done that. Like seriously, is the supply of men really THAT fuckin' short? And this is the main reason men cheat. With women like her allowing men to have their cake and eat it too, shyt aint NEVER gonna change. C'mon women, stop it......now.

Some men are such DOGS!

Now Im not bashing ALL men, just the men who KNOW their asses arent any good!

So theres this older guy I work with, he's in his early 30's. He's a real cool dude. He's funny, makes me laugh (not too many guys can do that), we talk and whatnot while on the job, etc. *clears throat* He has a tongue ring right? And Imma keep it real, Ive always wondered what it would be like to get ate out by a GUY with a tongue ring (Im not a lesbian even though I have absolutely NOTHING against those who are) and seeing his gave me hope to one day have the oppurtunity to experience it,lol. He's cute and he doesnt look as old as he is.

So anyway, I inquired about his tongue ring one day and he kept it real and told me that he enjoyed giving oral sex and had gotten the tongue ring to enhance the experience,lol. Cool. So EVERY SINCE I ASKED HIS AZZ ABOUT THAT TONGUE RING, he's been doing the little tongue between the two fingers thing and saying little shyt on the sly about giving me the best head i'll ever have in my life, etc, etc. MIND YOU, he has a girl/wife(hell, I dont know what the fuck she is to him)that he lives with and THREE kids.

Now, if this isnt some shyt. He's practically begging me to let him give me head (and I know his ass wants to fuck me too, but uhh NOT HAPPENIN'!)and he has a whole girl at home?! How does a man come to work every day and flirt and say all types of provocative shyt to another female and then go home and kiss his girl with that same mouth?!lol. I dont know what to say about his azz. I mean, why be in a relationship if you dont really want to settle down? I know for a FACT that if I gave him the green light to give me head and do it to me, his azz would be all for it and cheat.

SMH, a damn shame. What the f*ck is wrong with our men? Do they have no shame?

Stop ruining it for the rest of us you ungrateful bytches!

LOL! So I have a new roommate (who just happens to be a very handsome guy in the Marines by the way) and he's is ultimately the sweetest guy I have EVER fuggin' met in my life! I mean, Im not in love with him or anything but I just think he is such a great guy. Anyways, he has three kids by two different women. BOTH of those bytches are ungrateful as hell! He married the girl with his two kids but divorced her because he said she was ungrateful and didnt appreciate him buying a house for them, paying all the bills, and basically supporting her non working azz (given that she was a stay at home mom I guess) BUT still, how the fuck you gonna be complaining and aint got a damn job? THEN, his other babies mother was a mistake(It happens, we all make "mistakes",lol) and he says she's just a gold diggin bytch whos extremely immature.

So tonight I was talking to him and he was like "yeah, from now on Im not giving any more girls my all."

Thanks you selfish bytches. Thanks for crushing this GOOD poor mans spirit! But he was stupid as hell yall,lol. They seen he was in the Marines and had a good head on his shoulders and trapped his azz!lol.

But in all seriousness it happens. We give that "one" our all and basically do whatever for them only to be SHYTED on in return. This results in us entering other relationships with caution (which is cool, nothing wrong with that)but we limit ourselves and pass on giving that special one our all- the one who actually DESERVES it and would appreciate it- for fear of being hurt.

Im gonna be real, I dont really trust too many guys. I always feel like they have a hidden agenda or are trying to be players. With me having a good amount of guy friends who are constantly talking about which chick sucked their dick yesterday and with me being in that so called relationship I was in, who could blame my azz?! lol

Why is it so hard to stay faithful and commited?

My coworkers and I are having this discussion about why is it hard for people, particuliarly guys, to stay faithful? There can be different answers to this question and here is mine:

Men, particuliarly black men,are at the top of the food chain. Period. They're getting pussy thrown at them from all different races of women. Some feel like there's something better out there and choose to 'explore' their options instead of just sticking with one girl and REALLY getting to know her and finding out if she's truly the right one. This is where the whole 'you never know what you got until its gone' notion comes from.

This is just MY theory and does NOT reflect the thoughts of others,lol. What do you think? Why is it so hard for men (and women) to stay commited and faithful to their significant other? I mean, why be with that person if your're not willing to give yourself to that person 100%?